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My Daily Routine (Fall 2019)

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Hello, and welcome back to Capturing College! I hope you are enjoying reading my weekly posts. I am not sure what kind of content you all prefer, so feel free to comment and let me know!

When debating on what to post this week, I ultimately decided on sharing my daily routine with you. While in college, my daily routine isn’t always consistent, but I thought it would be fun to share with you what my average day is like.

My schedule does change every other day, so I figured I would share with you what my typical Monday is like this quarter.

My day starts at 7 a.m. when I wake up to shower. I usually shower fairly quickly and then head back to my room to get dressed. When deciding on my outfit, I usually check the weather so that I am prepared for the day. Recently, it has been pretty cold, so most mornings I am ending up wearing jeans and a sweatshirt under my black North Face rain jacket.

After getting dressed, I wash my face and put on my makeup. Since I am pretty tired and it is very early in the morning, I tend to wear very minimal makeup. After my makeup is done, I usually fix my hair while popping a K-Cup into my Keurig so I can brew some coffee while I finish getting ready. Some days I curl my hair if I have the time, but typically it is straight. However, since it is usually a little frizzy from sleeping, I sometimes run a straightener through it in oder to sleek it over again in the morning.

After my hair is done, I brush my teeth while pouring some caramel creamer into my coffee. I then put on my shoes and jacket, pack up my backpack, and spray on some perfume before slipping on my jacket. After that, I pop in my Airpods before putting on my backpack and heading out the door, coffee in hand.

I head to my first class, Contemporary Biology, and usually am greeted by my friend Harrison, who happens to be the teacher’s assistant for that class. I sit in class and take notes while drinking my coffee. At 8:50 a.m., that class ends and I then tread across campus to my second period class, Writing for Advertising.

After sitting in that class and discussing methods of advertising, I head on my longest journey to my last morning class, Introduction to Music, where we learn all about the history and methods of music composition and how to identify different instruments.

After that, I am typically free until my 1 p.m. class, and I usually use that time to eat lunch. However, on Monday’s, I have an officer meeting from 12:30-1 p.m. for the CommLang Club, of which I am the vice president.

Once that meeting has ended, I head straight to my last class of the day, Media Writing, which ends at 1:50 p.m., but what happens next varies by the day. On Wednesday’s, I have Contemporary Biology Lab from 2-5 p.m., and luckily it is taught by Harrison, so I feel comfortable asking questions. He is actually a very helpful TA and does a great job. On Monday’s, Tuesday’s, and Thursday’s I usually work from 2-5 p.m. and that really works up my appetite for dinner.

I head out to eat with Christopher usually right once I am off of work. We try to go to the cafeteria as much as we can, but honestly we do end up going out way more than we should.

If we go out to eat, we usually end up getting fast food, and once we get back to campus, we get straight to work on our homework and studies for the week.

I tend to finish my homework anywhere between 8-10 p.m. depending on how much there is to do that night and how soon I need to complete it. After that, I head back to the dorm to relax.

Usually, I change into sweats and prepare for bed, and then start to watch “Friends.” Right around then, one of my friends, typically Lexi or Allison, knock on my door, and we end up hanging out. We usually catch up and make plans for the following day, or talk about what is going on in our love lives.

Sometimes, if it is a particulary slow week, we even watch a TV show together. Lexi and I have recently been watching the Netflix original show “Raising Dion.” It is amazing and really well done, I highly reccommend it. Other nights, we binge watch One Direction videos and sing along, or we spend the late evening eating a bunch of food at Sheri’s.

Most nights, however, we just talk for hours and leave the door open until we end up with our whole squad gathered at the end of the hall in either my room or Mariah and Allison’s room, which is across the hall. Eventually, we end up deciding to turn in for the night.

To prepare for bed, I usually make sure to remove my makeup before washing my face and brushing my teeth before putting my retainers in. I put an essential oil in my room diffuser and turn it on before turning out the lights and crawling into bed. My favorite night time scent for my diffuser is lavender, but recently I have been running thieves or eucalyptus due to the fact that myself and my roommate have been sick for a while now.

That is the end of my typical day so far this quarter. While it does tend to vary due to after school activities, amounts of homework, changing schedules, and other variables, this is the basic outline of a day in my life.

I hope you enjoyed reading this post! If you would like to see more post like this, perhaps a day in the life post with images, or a quarterly updated version of this, let me know by commenting below, Please be sure to follow Capturing College and check out more of the posts I have. Have a great rest of your week!

Disposable Date

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I know what you are thinking, “Why would you want to go on a trashy date?” Well, that isn’t exactly where I am going with this.

This summer, I had the idea that Christopher and I would take a disposable camera with us when we would go out on cute little dates throughout the summer. I wanted to capture these moments on film, and I was super excited when we got them.

I thought that this would be a pretty cheap date idea, especially considering we were able to take it on a total of six dates and end up with approximately 27 photos. The camera itself I believe cost about $10 at Walgreens. When I had it developed, I wanted two copies of each image (one for Christopher and one for myself) so that ended up being about $24.

I don’t know about you, but I used to use disposable cameras all the time when I was a kid. Back then, when you had them developed, you would get the film back, along with one print of each image. Now, they have changed that (at least at Walgreens). You now only get one copy of each image printed, along with a CD of all the scans of the images.

The Cost

To sum up: For a total of approximately $34 (spread out over about one month), I ended up with one camera, 27 images on a CD, and 54 prints (two copies of each photo).

As far as being on a college budget goes, I was working and it was summer vacation, so I had a little bit more money to spend. While this is pretty pricey, If you only take three photos each time you go out, you could spread it out over 9 weeks (assuming you only go out once a week).

You also could reduce the cost by only getting one copy of the photos and deciding who gets each one. Plus, since you have the CD, you can always go in and print more.

Originally, I was going to try and fill up the whole camera on the first date, so there are a lot of photos from that first day. However, we realized quickly that it would be more fun if we could just shoot images over the next few weeks and get them developed whenever we were ready.

Date One: Exploration

For our first date, we went on a drive to explore the more remote area around us. It was super fun. We found some abandoned trails and fun things like that.

Date Two: Craft.19

Over the next few weeks, we basically went out for coffee a bunch of times, so the majority of the photos are just of us drinking coffee. This first image is of Christopher outside one of his favorite coffee shops, Craft.19 in Sumner, Washington. (He took two photos of me, but I don’t like them enough to include them on this post.)

Christopher outside Craft.19
Date Three: Metronome Coffee

These next photos were taken at Metronome Coffee in Tacoma, Washington. They had amazing lattes. We went twice this summer, and this was the second of the two. I really liked their vanilla lattes.

This is absolutely my favorite image from the camera.
Date Four: Craft.19 (Again)

Our next date sent us back to Craft.19, as it is close to where we live and one of Christopher’s favorites. These photos turned out a little bit better this time, however you may notice that in most of the photos Christopher took, his finger was covering the lens.

Bonus Photo: DAT

The next photo I have was from when Christopher came over to show me his scores from the DAT, the Dental Admissions Test, which he had been studying for all summer up to that point. As you can tell by the big smile on his face, he did very well.

Date Five: Dog Walking

Another thing we did this summer was take Patrick on a walk a few minutes away from my house. He had a wonderful time, and was very excited to have a brief moment away from his annoying little brother, Lewis.

Date Six: Seattle

The last two photos were taken on a date we had in Seattle one afternoon. Christopher drove us up to Seattle, and we explored the area around University of Washington. We had some amazing Thai food, and then decided to explore the campus a little bit. We ended up in their amazing library. I wanted to take photos in the library, but I thought the noise would be too disruptive, so we took photos outside instead.

The funny thing about these photos is that we look like two young adults touring Europe in the summer of the 1990’s, especially with the architecture behind us and the clothes we were wearing. I’m not sure what exactly went wrong with the photo I took of Christopher, but it may have just been weird since it was the last one on the camera.

Tips and tricks

While shooting with a disposable, you learn many things that are helpful to know as you continue to shoot that I want to share.

First of all, using a disposable camera means you essentially only have one chance to get it right. While this may put the pressure on for some of you, I urge you to focus on making this fun. Every shot you take is going to be different and one of a kind, so think of this as a sort of fun time capsule and a chance to get creative.

Also, keep in mind that there are different types of disposable cameras. I believe the one that I got was a Kodak. Different cameras use different film, which means the tones and colors will be different in each brand. So that I could give you an accurate representation of how these looked when they came out of the camera, I did not edit the images posted here at all, however I did edit the digitals I keep on my phone to look the way I would prefer. Next time, I am going to try to use a different camera until I find a brand of film I prefer to use.

I think I am going to try to spread out the photos over a longer portion of time, that way it is super exciting when I finally am able to get them developed. I also think that next time, I am only going to get one set of the prints, and then Christopher and I can split them between each other, and if there are others we each want a copy of, I can order them from the digital version given to us on the CD copy.

As far as using the camera, I have a few pointers. I recommend not winding it up for the photo until you are about to take the photo. When I was a kid, I would wind it up way before I was ready to take the photo, and then accidentally press the shutter before I was ready, and this ended up with a lot of wasted photos. To avoid this, and to get your money’s worth, I would recommend waiting to wind it up until right before you are taking the photo.

I also would recommend making sure that people don’t accidentally have their fingers in the photos. This was more of an issue for Christopher than it was for me, but if I had reminded him when he was taking the photos, it may have been less of a problem.

I also think that remembering that this camera is meant to be used from at least three feet away, so don’t try to take close up photos with it, because they end up blurry and oddly colored.

In addition to that, keep in mind that this camera works best in direct sunlight. When your subject is back lit, the photos aren’t going to turn out the way you expect, so maybe try to use the flash in those situations. The flash may not solve your problem, but it should help. Also remember to use the flash in darker surroundings. It may not look as great as shooting in direct sunlight, but it should help it look better for sure.

Overall, I really enjoyed shooting with a disposable camera, and I want to do it more over the coming quarter. I will be sure to share them here if I do end up doing it again.

Have you shot with a disposable camera, and if so, what is your preferred brand? Leave a comment below and let me know. Be sure to follow me here on Capturing College to keep up with me on all of my adventures.

College Journey Part Eight: Summer 2019

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Hello everybody, and welcome back to Capturing College! It is the start of another academic year for me, but before I start posting about all that entails, I want to share with you some highlights from this past summer.

This summer started on a high note about half way through June. Christopher surprised me with tickets to see the Broadway show “Wicked” while it was touring in Seattle as a birthday present. We spent the morning in Seattle grabbing coffee and then headed to the show. It was phenomenal, and I would see it another million times if I could!

Of course, the big news of the summer was the fact that we got a puppy. His name is Lewis, and he is an American Mastiff. We actually got him at the end of May, but I wasn’t able to be around him really until summer, so I thought that I would include it here. I took some adorable photos of Lewis with his big brother Patrick, a great dane who is about a year older.

These photos are from Independence Day when they wore their matching bowties!

Later in the summer, I was able to take a day trip with Christopher and his family to Seabrook, Washington. We walked around town, took photos on the beach, and played with his dogs. It was a wonderful day.

A few weeks passed, and then Christopher and I went on a day trip with his father to explore the many coffee shops in Portland. It was a wonderful trip. By the way, if you happen to be in the Portland area and want some AMAZING food, the Lardo fries at Lardo are amazing! Let me know if you try them, they are my favorite for sure.

Every weekend for about eight weeks, I joined my parents and took Lewis to puppy kindergarten. He did really well most of the time, but since his breed tends to be a lazier breed, he did not really want to participate. Honestly, I can’t blame him. I wouldn’t want to wake up early on the weekend and then be forced to behave for an hour either.

Lewis on his first day of puppy kindergarten

While the above activities make my summer look like it was all fun and games, it was not. I was taking a yoga class at a local community college for credit. The class met twice a week for two hours and was about five weeks long. It was a good experience, and I really enjoyed it in the end, even though it required waking up early.

I also was able to have a job. This summer I ended up being a photographer at JCPenney Portraits. It was a very taxing job, as I was one of two employees at the studio by the end of my first month, and I was running through the studio by myself at least once a week.

Although the hours were long and hard, I did learn a lot in a short amount of time, and I did appreciate having set hours and having a lot of evenings off to spend with my family and friends.

That pretty much sums up my summer. It was wild and fun and crazy in every possible way, but I am excited to get back to work at school and learn more about myself and my chosen field every day.

I will be updating this blog on a more regular basis now that I have returned to school, so keep an eye out, and be sure to follow so you receive updates when I post!

Group Shoot: Lexi, Alyssa, Jenn and Hope

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Lexi, my roommate this year, wanted to do a photoshoot with her friends to remember this year, as well as just have some nice photos together. Alyssa will be headed to Zimbabwe next year to teach music and English at a school there as a student missionary. Hope, Lexi and Jenn will be returning to Walla Walla University in the fall to continue working toward their teaching degrees.

For this photoshoot, they wanted an urban vibe, so we ventured into downtown Walla Walla. We did a wide variety of backgrounds and poses, and they ended up with about 500 edited photos out of the 1,800 we shot.

Lexi
Alyssa
Jenn
Hope

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Five Memories From My Sophomore Year of College

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This is my finals week from my last quarter of my sophomore year of college. To celebrate, I thought I would post some of my favorite memories from this year.

1. Friendsgiving at the cabin

My friend, Luke, has a cabin that we all go and visit sometimes. This year was my first time going to the cabin. It was Luke, Lexi, Ryan, Harrison and I. We cooked, baked cakes, watched movies, and played games. We even got to explore the town of Leavenworth, Washington. We had a “Friendsgiving” meal which we all worked together to prepare, and we enjoyed getting to know each other. We went to a diner that reminded Lexi and I of “Riverdale,” so we had to take a Betty and Veronica pic. Check it out!

Lexi and I as Veronica Lodge and Betty Cooper
2. Weezer Concert in Portland

For my boyfriend’s birthday, I bought him tickets to see Weezer. We went with his friends and had a fun time exploring Portland for the weekend. I wrote about it in a previous post, so I won’t elaborate too much here, but it was one of the most memorable things that happened this year.

3. Boise trip

Another friend of mine, Harrison, lives in Boise, Idaho. During a long weekend, Christopher, Lexi, Kailee and I went home with Harrison and were able to explore his hometown. This is another thing I referenced in an earlier post, but I had to mention it again, especially since I was able to explore a new town with my new friends.

4. Joseph, Oregon with my family

One of the first weekends in October, my parents rented an RV and drove out to meet me at school. They even brought our Great Dane, Patrick! The four of us all went camping for the weekend in Joseph, Oregon. We had a wonderful time, despite the cold weather, and really enjoyed spending time as a family to celebrate my mom’s birthday.

5. The many, many photoshoots.

I have done so many shoots this year! I have met tons of people and it made me more comfortable shooting with people I am less familiar with. I have loved all the content I have produced this year. I won’t make you scroll through all the images on this post, but if you would like to see them, please check out my posts on my Instagram and Twitter, @kirstenimages.

I hope you have enjoyed reading about my memories from my sophomore year of college. If you want to read more about it, check out my College Journey series under the college tab on this blog, Capturing College, and don’t forget to follow to see more content!

20 Things I’ve Learned Before Turning 20 (Part Four)

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This is the final part of my 20 Things I’ve Learned Before Turning 20 series! If you missed Part One, Two, or Three, read those first, and don’t forget to follow this blog, Capturing College, for more helpful hints and advice.

16. Everyone is on a different path.

I struggle to remember that I can’t compare where I am at on my journey with other people’s journeys. We are all on our own journey and have our own struggles and trials, as well as our own successes and triumphs. Don’t compare your phase two with someone else’s phase four. Also, don’t compare your phase two to someone else’s phase one. Don’t go around thinking you are so much father ahead than someone else. You may just have an easier path now, and they may catch up or even pass you. Everyone is on a different journey, just be concerned with your own.

17. You can learn something from every situation.

No matter if it is the best scenario, or your worst nightmare, you can learn something from everything you experience in life. You woke up late and missed your first class? Maybe next time don’t stay up late studying and set multiple alarms. Your friend brought you coffee to work today? Maybe follow their example of kindness and bring them a treat next time you go out, or treat a random stranger by paying for their order at Starbucks. No matter how good or bad a situation is, you can always learn something from it.

18. Love everyone.

Life is too short to go around making people miserable. The world would be so much better if we all chose to love each other. Regardless of race, gender, religious beliefs, sexuality, or any trivial thing that may make someone different from you. Love them. Love everyone. Be kind to others.

19. Take risks.

There are two things I have struggled with since I was a child. One is making fast decisions, and the other is taking risks. Ironically, those two things kind of go hand in hand on a fairly frequent basis. When I was a child, if I did all my chores for the week, my mom would let me chose between a mystery present or $10 or something like that. She was trying to teach me that taking risks in life is okay, and they even help spice up my life. I like to weigh all my options as a kid, and if I ever had to make a choice, I would always try to find a way to compromise and get both things. Unfortunately, you can’t always do that in the grown-up world, so don’t be afraid to take risks. It will all turn out the way it was meant to.

20. Do what makes you happy.

I saved this one for last because this is the most important thing I have learned before turning 20. Do what makes YOU happy. This is your life, and it is short. Don’t compromise when it comes to your happiness. If you hate your major now, you are going to hate doing things in that field for the rest of your life, so change your major now while you still can. If you don’t like your school, don’t just sit there and live through it, make a change and transfer schools. Make this life worth living, do what makes you happy. Pursue what you love, whether it be someone or something, a person or a career. Do what makes you happy.

I hope you enjoyed this series. Be sure to check out Part One, Two, and Three if you missed them. Follow me on this blog, Capturing College, for more content like this, and don’t forget to do what makes you happy.

College Journey Part Seven: Spring 2019

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I am currently just finishing up the spring quarter of my sophomore year at Walla Walla University, and I have to say I have really enjoyed this year over all. I will be returning in the fall for my junior year, and I already have my schedule mapped out for the whole academic year.

This quarter has been tons of fun. I surprised my boyfriend, Christopher, with tickets to go see Weezer in Portland, Oregon, with me and two of his friends, Andrew and Maria. The concert was the first weekend after spring break, and it was totally worth it. Weezer was super entertaining, and we had a wonderful weekend overall.

We also went home randomly one weekend to spend some time with our families. It was a nice break from the grind of school, and I think we both seriously enjoyed it.

Over the course of the quarter, we enjoyed spending time with our friends. We had about a billion cups of coffee and enjoyed the sunshine, which was a welcome change from the buckets of snow from winter quarter.

We went to Bennington Lake with Harrison and Lexi earlier in the quarter, and took some fun photos. Christopher walked away with 17 bug bites, I ended up with 21, and Lexi ended up getting lost. It took us a while, but we managed to help her find her way back to the car.

Christopher and I at Bennington Lake
  • Lexi and Harrison
  • Lexi and Harrison
  • Lexi and Harrison
  • Harrison
Christopher and I
  • Lexi and I
  • Lexi and I

As far as school goes, this quarter has been a pretty strong one. I have really enjoyed my classes this quarter, and I even got an amazing job that I love. I am so thankful that I ended up at WWU this year, and I can’t wait for a new year with more amazing memories.

20 Things I’ve Learned Before Turning 20 (Part Three)

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This is the third part of what will be a four part series on 20 things I have learned before turning 20. If you haven’t read the first two parts of the series, listing 1-5 and 6-10, be sure to check those out. Also, don’t forget to follow so you don’t miss the final five going up next Monday!

11. It is okay to not be okay.

You are not going to be okay all the time. We will all have our bad days, weeks months, or even years (can you hear the “Friends” theme in your head?), and that is completely okay. You don’t have to pretend you are okay all the time. Also, under the same umbrella, if you are not doing too well, please seek help. There is no shame in going to see a therapist or a counselor. It can really help you think things out and process, and the trained mental health professionals can give you tools to use when you aren’t able to have access to help from other people.

12. Adapt and adjust.

Not everything is going to go to plan all the time. I am someone who plans things in my head all the time, and when things don’t go exactly as I expect, I tend to get a little frustrated. When I was in health class my freshman year of high school, my health teacher told us that we need to be able to adapt and adjust. Whether it may be a new job, a daily plan, a routine, or a move to a new place, we need to know how to adapt and adjust to our situations and surroundings.

13. Friendships (and relationships) are a two-way street.

Friendships and relationships require give and take. Don’t be the only one giving in any relationship, whether platonic or romantic, but also don’t forget you shouldn’t be just taking either. Relationships are a balance. Somedays you may give more than you take, and others you may take more than you give. However, if you feel you are always giving and they are never giving you anything in return, maybe speak to them about it, and if nothing improves, maybe let that relationship fade.

14. It is okay to cut people out of your life.

Cut them out. (I tried to think of a nicer way to say this, but I think this is common language now, so I will stick with it for now.) I have said before that friendships fade and change, and that is true. However, when, in reference to #13, a relationship is always more give than take, and you aren’t getting what you want or need out of the relationship, it is time to let that person go. You don’t have to be rude about it, but maybe say no when they ask you to do something for them, or stop hanging out with them as much. If you are constantly being dragged down by someone, cut them out. If someone is using up all of your energy and never building you up, cut them out. If you do so much for someone and they never do anything in return, cut them out. If they can never be happy for you when you are finally happy, cut them off. It sounds terrible and mean, but you don’t have to be rude about it, please be polite! You just need to realize what you need out of life, and if this person isn’t a good person to have around, you need to let them go, and move on with your life.

15. Not everyone wants your advice.

I know this is pretty silly to say, especially considering this list of 20 things are basically all advice from my life, but it is something I have come to realize recently. I am at a different place in my life than a lot of people my age. I have researched heavily what I want and what I am doing, and I have gone through things that other people I know haven’t experienced yet. I tend to offer advice to people that don’t necessarily want it on a fairly regular basis. Of course, I never mean to overstep or be rude, but if I know that a certain school is over twice as expensive as the one I am currently attending, I am going to caution my friend, or if I know that it is going to rain tomorrow and there is a photoshoot planned, I will give them a heads up. What I have to realize is, some people just need to do this on their own. I have conversations about these things with my mother frequently. I just want to help others, but to them, it seems as though I am an annoying know-it-all that just wants to prove she’s better than everyone else, which is not true! I just love my friends so much that I don’t want them to have to struggle to figure things out on their own. However, I need to realize that people need to figure things out for themselves, and they don’t always want my help or advice.

That is all for this week’s edition of 20 Things I’ve Learned Before Turning 20. Don’t forget to check out Part One and Part Two, and follow to make sure you don’t miss the fourth and final part coming out next Monday!

College Journey Part Six: Winter 2019

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By the time I entered my second quarter of college at Walla Walla University, a lot had changed. I had a boyfriend, Christopher, who has been my best friend for years. I had new classes and was excited to go on some fun trips with my friends.

Over winter quarter, my roommate Lexi, and our friends Luke and Harrison, joined Christopher and I on a trip to Portland, Oregon. We had a great weekend. We went shopping, took some photos, and stopped at about a billion coffee shops.

Christopher and I at Multnomah Falls on the way back from Portland

Later in the quarter, we went to visit Harrison’s hometown, which is close to Boise, Idaho. This time, it was Kailee, Lexi, Christopher and I, and we all stayed at Harrion’s house for the weekend.

We, of course, took some amazing photos, and had a lot of coffee. As you may sense, this is sort of a theme for us: coffee and photos.

Christopher and I at a park in Boise
  • Lexi and Harrison
  • Lexi and Kailee
  • Kailee and Harrison

This trip was super fun. I was able to get to know Kailee since I hadn’t spent much time with her.

There were some fun ski trips we also went on, and we also were able to have some fun in the snow, since it snowed a lot that quarter.

While I was making more friends and going on trips, I was having a hard time adjusting still. The dark and cold weather was rough to handle every day, but I eventually adapted, and looked forward to the sunny weather coming with spring quarter.

20 Things I’ve Learned Before Turning 20 (Part Two)

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To count down the weeks until I turn 20, I decided I would share with you 5 of the 20 things I’ve learned before turning 20. Check out the first five here if you haven’t already, and be sure to follow and come back on Monday for the next five things.

6. You are allowed to put yourself first.

I constantly put someone else’s needs before my own. Whether it be my friends, my boyfriend, or even a classmate, I always find myself placing my own personal needs and wants on the back burner. This is just a recent thing that I am still working on, but I am reminding myself that it is okay to have time set aside just for me. It is okay to not set your whole life around someone else’s schedule. If people want to see you badly enough, they will work with you to find a common time. Of course, relationships and friendships take work and a balance of give and take. However, make sure you aren’t the only one giving. It needs to be a balance. Put yourself first. It really is okay.

7. Just because someone is better, does not make you bad.

I don’t know if this is a teenager thing or a girl thing, but I constantly compare myself to others. Not just my hair, my body, my makeup, but my work, my talent, and my grades are all nothing if they aren’t the best, and therefore better than everyone else. I constantly hear myself saying things like, “Well, they are an amazing photographer, so I must not be good.” Just because someone is more talented than you does not mean you are not talented. Don’t define your self worth based on other’s success.

8. Speak up.

It is okay to say what you mean. You are allowed to tell people what you want and how you want to be treated. Of course, you should do it nicely, but that doesn’t mean you have to be a pushover either. If you want to go to a specific place for dinner, speak up. If you want more time with your boyfriend, tell him. Don’t go through life unhappy because you didn’t want to be an inconvenience. This is your life, and you deserve to live it your way.

 9. Friends change.

The people you are best friends with in high school may not be your best friends in college, even if you go to the same school. This does not mean you will despise each other and never see each other, and it does not mean you are no longer friends at all. Friendships change and people change, but that doesn’t make your bond weaker. Who knows, maybe you will become closer with people you barely knew in high school, or you will make new friends. No matter what happens, friendships change, and that is okay.

10. It is okay to ask for help.

You can not do everything yourself. I am one of those people that loves to be able to do everything by myself. I move my room around, wash my car, make appointments and shoot and edit photos of myself all on my own. I don’t like asking for help because it means admitting that I have to rely on other people. However, I know that it is okay for me to ask others for help. There is no way I can do everything all on my own, and it is okay for me to learn from others by asking for their help.

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